An Introvert’s Guide to Frosh Parties

The frosh I attended last year ended off with a night at an all-ages club. I’m probably the last person you’d see at a club, but I went anyway because I wanted to experience something new. I also wanted to get my money’s worth — food, transportation and frosh tickets caused me to spend a lot of money during frosh. I went in not being the type to enjoy clubbing, and I went out never wanting to do it again.

The majority of my club experience involved me being alone and anxious. It went from having to roam around Yonge-Dundas Square alone because I arrived too early, to nervously watching as the bouncer closely examined the contents of my bag (I had nothing to hide, I promise), to almost being trampled over by someone twice my size in the club and walking down the streets of Toronto alone at close to midnight.

But fear not — going to one of those all-ages clubs isn’t an entirely bad idea, even if you tend to be introverted. If you’re as frugal and adventurous as I am and want to attend party-like events such as Fiesta del Fuego, central frosh’s EDM concert, here’s a list of things I learned from my clubbing experience that can help make yours less daunting.

  1. Make friends in the beginning of frosh. It’ll be much less awkward dancing with a group of people you like as opposed to being alone. Make friends with your frosh leaders, too — they can help you out with university and Toronto life, and they’re also probably super cool.
  2. Don’t go home alone, especially if the event is late and you live an hour or more away. Toronto is exciting in the daylight, but once it gets darker it can be dangerous for young women. If you do live far and have to commute, leave early. I ended up only spending about half an hour in the club because I didn’t want to resort to calling my mom to rescue me from the terrors of night-time Toronto.Or if you want to dance the night away, make a plan. You can split an Uber with your newfound frosh friends or ask your parents to pick you up from the subway. Make sure to double check the TTC schedule. During the summer, lines can be unexpectedly closed and shuttle buses may run instead. Plan ahead to get home safely.
  3. Have a good meal beforehand and keep yourself hydrated. Clubs and concerts can get very crowded and sweaty, so you’ll need to make sure you won’t get lightheaded at any point. At the club I went to, getting to the free water cup station took some effort because we had to push through the crowd so I was glad I chugged a bottle of water beforehand.
  4. Bring a small bag that will be comfortable to carry while in a crowd. This is especially useful in a club because you won’t have to check it in, and if you want to leave at any point you can just head straight for the door.
  5. Enjoy yourself! There’s no such thing as a lame dance move. What’s great about university is that you have the freedom to be who you are, even if it’s a little bit weird. The most memorable part of my clubbing experience and the moment I wasn’t completely nervous was when I pulled off my best mom moves with all my new frosh friends.

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